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Thank you for the encouragement. I am not discouraged with my child very often as I know that he is still young, 5 years old, but I am curious when I will be able to hear him speak. He is considered nonverbal, and no is not potty trained but outside of those issues he is a pretty regular kid. He does attend a special needs preschool and will remain in a special ed class because at this time he not of the ability to be mainstreamed. That is not saying he not smart. He is highly intelligent in many areas however does not meet 'typical' 5 year old expectations. I am optimistic that no matter where his placement in school is he will always continue to grow and acquire the skills necessary to function and thrive in a typical social environment. My child is very social, he just doesn't talk, which of course makes socialization with children who do not understand a bit difficult but that doesn't seem to hold him back.

I'm looking forward to seeing who he becomes at the age of 16. I'm fully prepared to support him and encourage him through his entire life and know that no matter if he ever is "normal" by societies standards he will always be who he is supposed to be. That is more than enough for me. :)

Thanks that helped a lot. I'm just now accepting the fact I guess you can say. I feel really bad because I've not wanted to see it to say. Yesterday drew the line with me and was like a slap in the face. My daughter who's 6yrs old was playing with my son he has major anger and he slammed her arm in the bed room door twice it's broke and we've got to see a surgeon tomorrow. I've asked the doctor several times what I can do when he shows out and the only response I've gotten is " there's really nothing you can do" I've spanked him for doing wrong because I wanted to just think He's just doing it and He's no different than my daughter. When that happen yesterday he laughed about it and it hurt me because I feel that my parenting isn't good. I guess I just had to accept that my son is different. My daughter see's me crying daily and I can't tell her that Mommy is stressed out because bubba isn't minding and she's adhd so she's really hyper. I've recently got put on some anxiety medication but I'm not a fan of medication. I've refused my kids to be put on it and yet I got it. I think I'm to the point where my son has to have something because I am scared he will hurt someone. He's also legally deaf and it's hard on him I'm sure but I just don't understand the anger. Can you help me with that?

The anger most likely stems from his lack of being able to understand and communicate effectively with the world. Do you sign? Use PECS(picture exchange communication system)? Have you developed a routine that can be followed? Routine and knowing what is to come often helps children manage an otherwise chaotic world. Try setting up opportunities for your son to be successful and praised, your daughter as well of course, and always try to remain positive about what they can do. Repetition is key in discipline and finding what works for your child, and your family is a trial and error process. Good luck.